Surprisingly, perfectionists are often procrastinators, as they can tend to think “I don’t have the right skills or resources to do this perfectly now, so I won’t do it at all.”
He said this group was broken. The best way to honor him is to unbreak it. Set aside our differences and pull together, stop feeling sorry for ourselves and take control of our lives, our safety, our future. We’re not broken.
going to paris for a long weekend tomorrow morning so yeah no posts bUT FOR A FUN REASON THIS TIME NOT MY ABSENTMINDEDNESS YAYYY
I’ll fight you if I have to.
Then what are you waiting for?
my grandmas funeral was today and (sidenote: it was a lovely service and my mum broke down and i’ve never seen her cry before so emotional atmosphere, but people who’ve known her 50+ years told stories kind of reminded me who she used to be before the alzheimer’s hit 10 years ago, which i’m grateful for)
but then as we were pulling out to head to the wake venue, the cars of our family and friends etc just stopped in front of us and everybody started getting out and fuck it all happened so fast, i looked out and saw that one of the cars had crashed turning onto the road and the collision had made one of the topple right over on its side, and my dad yelled at us to stay in the car and he rushed over to try and get the people in the toppled car out (because they were trapped) and i ignored him and got out and ran to where my mum was standing on the grass because i was so so worried that it had been someone from our party
and i saw this woman shaking on the ground next to this crash with her kids, she was so in shock and my aunt ran over to help her and her kids over to the side and it turns out those were the people in the white car, not the toppled one. we DID know the people in the toppled one, they were my grandmothers old neighbours and i was so scared because they’re quite elderly and the wreck just looked SO bad
my dad was trying to move the party to the venue, and not have so many people crowding round so we left seconds before the ambulance got there
and my poor grandad got to the venue before any of us and had no idea that any of this had happened and i had to tell him that his neighbours had been in a crash just after his wifes funeral
thank god it all turned out alright, they weren’t badly hurt at all and even turned up to the wake a little later so like everyone got really lucky
it was just so scary wow
"Right and wrong do exist. Just because you don’t know what the right answer is — maybe there’s even no way you could know what the right answer is — doesn’t make your answer right or even okay. It’s much simpler than that. It’s just plain wrong."
screencap meme: Once upon a time + Colors
i know anon i know, this is just what i mean :(
and i do, i tell him every time i’m upset (we usually do when we’re upset with eachother, like we don’t want to build up resentment or anything)
but it’s like he doesn’t understand what i’d like from him wahhhhhh
yeah i know he sounds like that from what i’ve said in that post D:
and yeah all of that is true, but i’m obviously only complaining/posting about the bad stuff and not mentioning the good stuff (because there is a lot of good stuff and i know we love eachother etc)
it also helps to know that i’ve been a little difficult the past couple months (but with my grandma and the fact the first year of uni made me miserable kind of explains it) i wasn’t AWFUL i just needed a little more attention that usual y’know, in cases like tonight
i would explain everything to do with the girl in freshers and my birthday but it would take foreverrr and basically the first was really innocent… like for what it was, and though i’ve been 100% faithful since we started going out, that wasn’t the case in the first month or so of knowing eachother (but like c’mon we only went on a date or two, we weren’t exclusive, he didn’t own me) obviously i understand he was upset and i would have been too but i still don’t believe i did anything inherently wrong?? and the second he was soooo sorry for when i told him and he says he’s got this big thing planned but like the more time goes one the less i believe idk maybe it’s for summer?
BUT YES KATIE SORRY FOR THE RAMBLING HE NEEDS TO BACK UP HIS WORDS WITH ACTIONS AND NOT JUST SAY HE WILL THIS IS MY ENTIRE POINT THIS IS THE ONLY THING I WANTTTT
i want to stress that he is an amazing guy, and does treat me so much better than most guys i know do their girlfriends
he just seems to screw up massively when it’s most important
so it’s the night before my grandmas funeral and my boyfriend said he’d be out with a friend between 5-6 just playing some sport
it’s almost 9pm and i’ve only just heard from him
a stream of (really badly spelt) drunk messages basically telling me he’s watching football in a pub with said friend and he’ll maybe call later tonight
okay so fine any other day but tonight??????????